Who says that all those people who have a good relationship do not put an effort to make the relationship successful? Good relationships do not just happen do never give up on making a relationship work.
Some of the ways that will make the relationship a healthy relationship will include:
- Take Responsibility For Yourself
The first and the fundamental requirement of a relationship that will keep you satisfied is to learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. The comprehension of this sentence is easy; this means simply to have believed in one’s self and not to depend on your partner to make you feel happy and secure. Be happy and secure by your own thoughts and actions.
Make yourself happy with kindness, care, compassion and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Self-judgment will leave you unsatisfied even if your partner makes all the efforts to treat you right and to make you happy. The inner bonding process is a pathway towards this self-care.
- Kindness, Compassion, Acceptance
Treat others the way you want to be treated. This is the essence of a truly spiritual life. Once you treat yourself with loving care then you will feel loved and will treat your partner with the same kindness, compassion, understanding and acceptance. Every action has an equal reaction; sometimes there are no guarantees of how you will be treated in a relationship but generally treating another with kindness brings kindness in return. Make sure while you do so, you do not sacrifice yourself.
Do not reciprocate if your partner is consistently anger, blaming, withdrawn and unavailable rather spend that energy and time on yourself. You yourself will know exactly when to withdraw yourself from the relationship.
- Learning and Controlling
When you two get into a conflict in a relationship it either proves healthy or unhealthy. The reason of a conflict considered to be healthy is when you can open learning about yourself and your partner which then leads to a pathway to inner bonding. Once the inner bonding is done the relationship is considered healthy. Do not make the conflict a battle in which you try to win in any case. During the process of inner bonding the fears of abandonment or of engulfment will heal and the two people in the relationship will move towards understanding each other.
- Time Is An Important Factor
Do not forget how you first fell in love with each other. It all happened because you put in much effort and a lot of time to the relationship to make it happen. So after you are together make the relationship exciting by taking out time for each other and deciding specific times for talking, playing, loving.
- Gratitude Instead of Complaints
Be grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you lack in your relationship. All you need to do is to remind each other all the positive things you two do together. Do not complaint too much it brings stress in the relationship and the inner peace of the two partners is destroyed.
When you make sure you do all this, your relationship will be healthy and you will be capable of keeping your partner happy.